From TANTRA FOR ALL CHAKRAS* by Sasha Alex Lessin, Ph.D. (Dean, School of Tantra) & Janet Kira Lessin (CEO, Aquarian Radio
The cue-sentences below guide you through your past significant relationships. Your extract lessons you learned to better how you relate now. You and each of your partners (or alone, if you currently lack partners) note each relationship’s main events. You review the developmental tasks you completed in the relationship. You explore each relationship’s longings, withheld feelings, resentments, appreciations, and regrets. You contemplate what you learned and extend forgiveness for each lover and yourself.
You learn how, if you had it to do over, would improve the relationship.
Then consider the payoff–how can you apply what you could do better to your relationships nowSee convenient cues.
Read aloud except for text in square brackets [like this]. Square brackets indicate words for you, as Reader, to see silently.
REVIEW WHAT SHE LEARNED WITH LOVERS (CUES TO READ TO A FEMALE PARTNER)
[Tell her] Lie on your back. Relax. Put my left hand on your heart, my right on your second chakra (genitals). Rest your hands atop mine. Close your eyes. Ok, let’s release our hands; lower them.
Feel your genitals–your sexual chakra; notice your heart, your love chakra.
Reconsider your lovers from days gone. Say their names, I’ll write them. [For each lover on her list so she focuses on each, say:]
Lover 1 [Write it]
Lover 2
Lover 3
Lover 4
LOVER 1
Relate the YEARS you were involved with ___ [Lover 1’s name]. How old were you then? [Write years your age next to the name indicated]
Say the main EVENTS in this relationship. [Take notes next to the name she indicated]
Describe your EMOTIONS with [Lover 1’s name].
Tell me how you and [Lover 1’s name] related SEXUALLY.
Tell the DEVELOPMENTAL TASKS YOU COMPLETED with [Lover 1].
Imagine [name] stands before you. Toward him or her, express your LONGINGS, what you wished you could have shared with him or her.
Express to [ name] any WITHHELD FEELINGS, things you didn’t get to say.
Tell [ name] your RESENTMENTS.
As you imagine [name] before you, tell him or her what you DEMANDED–what you wanted and needed–from him or her.
Say, to [Lover 1], your APPRECIATIONS.
Say what you REGRET. Tell [ name] what you FORGIVE him or her for …
Tell [ name] WHAT YOU LEARNED from being together.
FORGIVE YOURSELF aloud for not doing better.
Bid him or her FAREWELL.
How, if you had it to do over, would you DO BETTER in the relationship with [name]?
How can you apply what you could do better with [name] to your relationship with me?
LOVER 2
Imagine [Lover 2: Say his or her name] sits before you.
Toward him or her, express your LONGINGS, what you wished you could have shared with him or her.
Express toward [Lover 2] any WITHHELD FEELINGS, things you didn’t get to say fully.
Say your RESENTMENTS.
As you imagine [name] before you, tell him or her what you DEMANDED–what you wanted and needed–from him or her.
Say your APPRECIATIONS.
Tell this lover what you REGRET.
Say what you FORGIVE him or her for.
Tell [Lover 2] WHAT YOU LEARNED when you enacted him or her.
FORGIVE YOURSELF aloud for not doing better.
Bid him or her FAREWELL.
How, if you had it to do over, would you DO BETTER when you related to [Lover 2: Say his or her name]?
How can you apply what you would have improved with that lover to how you relate with me?
[For each lover on her list, repeat the questions above.]
Find out the years she involved herself with each lover. Note her age while she and each lover related.
Tell her to review each relationship’s key events. Ask her what emotions and sexual behaviors she and each lover shared.
Ask her what developmental tasks she completed in each relationship.
Encourage her to express longings, withheld feelings, resentments, demands, appreciations, and regrets for each lover.
Let her say what she learned from each. Ask her to express forgiveness to lovers she resented. Invite her to say, “Goodbye” and cut emotional cords with each to the degree she desires.
Tell her to say what she’d improve were she to redo the relationship, now that she thought more about it.
Ask her how she can apply what she’d do better in each past relationship to how she relates to you now.
REVIEW WHAT HE LEARNED WITH LOVERS (CUES TO READ TO A MALE PARTNER)
[Tell him] Lie on your back. Relax. Put my left hand on your heart, my right on your second chakra (genitals). Rest your hands atop mine. Close your eyes. Ok, let’s release our hands; lower them.
Feel your genitals–your sexual chakra; notice your heart, your love chakra.
Reconsider your lovers from days gone. Say their names, I’ll write them. [For each lover on his list so he focuses on each, say:]
Lover 1 [Write it]
Lover 2
Lover 3
Lover 4
LOVER 1
Relate the YEARS you were involved with ___ [Lover 1’s name]. How old were you then? [Write years your age next to the name indicated]
Say the main EVENTS in this relationship. [Take notes next to the name he indicated]
Describe your EMOTIONS with [Lover 1’s name].
Tell me how you and [Lover 1’s name] related SEXUALLY.
Tell the DEVELOPMENTAL TASKS YOU COMPLETED with [Lover 1].
Imagine [name] stands before you. Toward him or her, express your LONGINGS, what you wished you could have shared with him or her.
Express to [name] any WITHHELD FEELINGS, things you didn’t get to say.
Tell [name] your RESENTMENTS.
As you imagine [name] before you, tell him or her what you demanded–what you wanted and needed–from him or her.
Say, to [Lover 1], your APPRECIATIONS.
Say what you REGRET. Tell [name] what you FORGIVE him or her for …
Tell [name] WHAT YOU LEARNED from being together.
FORGIVE YOURSELF aloud for not doing better.
Bid him or her FAREWELL.
How, if you had it to do over, would you DO BETTER in the relationship with [name]?
How can you apply what you could do better with [name] to your relationship with me?
LOVER 2
Imagine [Lover 2: Say his or her name] sits before you.
Toward him or her, express your LONGINGS, what you wished you could have shared with him or her.
Express toward [Lover 2] any WITHHELD FEELINGS, things you didn’t get to say fully.
Say your RESENTMENTS.
As you imagine [name] before you, tell him or her what you DEMANDED–what you wanted and needed–from him or her.
Say your APPRECIATIONS.
Tell this lover what you REGRET.
Say what you FORGIVE him or her for.
Tell [Lover 2] WHAT YOU LEARNED when you enacted him or her.
FORGIVE YOURSELF aloud for not doing better.
Bid him or her FAREWELL.
How, if you had it to do over, would you DO BETTER when you related to [Lover 2: Say his or her name]?
How can you apply what you would have improved with that lover to how you relate with me?
[For each lover on his list, repeat the questions above.]
[Find out the years he involved herself with each lover. Note his age while he and each lover related.]
[Tell him to review each relationship’s key events. Ask him what emotions and sexual behaviors he and each lover shared.]
[Ask him what developmental tasks he completed in each relationship.
[Encourage him to express longings, withheld feelings, resentments, demands, appreciations, and regrets for each lover.]
[Let him say what he learned from each. Ask him to express forgiveness to lovers he resented. Invite him to say, “Goodbye” and cut emotional cords with each to the degree he desires.]
[Tell him to say what he’d improve were he to redo the relationship, now that he thought more about it.]
[Ask him how he can apply what he’d do better in each past relationship to how he relates to you now.]
xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
- TANTRA FOR ALL CHAKRAS [amazon.com/Tantra-Chakras-Sasha-Alex-Lessin/dp/1548102830] guides you through experiences that help you:* Love each other more and better
* Open your energy vortexes (chakras) to each other
* Share your diverse inner-voices
* Learn what hurts and scares your Inner Kids
* Discern when to lower your subself shields
* Share vulnerability and connect with each other
* Synergize your inner selves’ dance within and between you
* Refine how you relate
* Heal each other’s hearts
* Encourage female ejaculation
* Master male ejaculatory control
Also by the Lessins: TEACH TANTRA–Help Your Lovers Love Your Right
amazon.com/Teach-Tantra-Teacher-Manual-Chakras/dp/1977642799
is a manual for you to experience advanced tantra and teach it to other people.
You learn to teach lovers and others how to:
* Master advanced tantra techniques
* Open all energy vortexes (chakras) to each other
* Refine relations
* Encourage female ejaculation and master male ejaculatory control
* Find meaning and purpose in relationships and life
* Reprogram parent imprints that diminish sex and love * Get satisfaction and sustain sex
* Mutually make more in sexual loving
* Delve dreams and past lives
* Worship women and gratify guys
THE LESSINS: HOLISTIC-LOVING GUIDES
SASHA ALEX LESSIN, PH.D. (U.C.L.A.) taught Sex Education in the University of Hawaii School of Medicine, Leeward Community College and the Professional School for Psychological Studies. He served as Director of Counseling at the Waikiki Drug Center and has counseled relationships, guided spiritual journeywork and taught tantra for over forty years.
JANET KIRA LESSIN, naturally tantric, joined Sasha as his co-teacher and presenter and together they developed, All-Chakra Tantra as Janet worked through her sexual abuse traumas and learned how to facilitate others’ reprogramming.
The LESSINS taught Tantra at Maui Community College, World Polyamory Association, World Tantra Association conferences, the School of Tantra on Maui and The Phoenix Goddess Temple.
They’ve appeared on numerous TV shows and on hundreds of radio shows and have written 10 books and counting.
https://wp.me/p1TVCy-5hv for experientials to uplevel your relationship
Please share.
