ALL CHAKRA TANTRA CONFLUENT RITUAL (Puja) FOR LOVERS
By Sasha Alex Lessin, Ph.D., Dean & Janet Kira Lessin, Professor, School of Tantra
We must address all our individual and collective needs if we are to create peaceful and loving interpersonal and international relations in this, the Post New Age. We must practice compassionate awareness of and respect for the lives and consciousness of all beings if we are to thrive and survive. The Post-New Age agenda: full, empathetic partnership consciousness in our families, among all humans, and between humans and the planetary ecology. We find the chakra system a useful map of the dimensions we must address; we find tantra and the Psychology of Selves ideal methods for exploring these dimensions.
Tantra activates all your chakras. The chakras, summarized in the chart below, are energy centers–each with a syllable to chant—associated with your perineum, genitals, belly, heart, throat, forehead, and crown. You pour energy from your chakras into a coherent river of light that spouts up your spine and meets your beloved’s light. You connect in the stream of consciousness that sweeps you both to the ocean of life.
Enhance your health and create safety for yourself and your beloved. Cherish your Inner Child. Contribute to everyone’s well-being and regenerate the planet.
Delight yourselves and each other sexually. Create kids consciously. Elevate sensuality to alleviate violence.
Empower your center, each of your inner voices, your lovers and humanity.
Love yourself, your lovers, and all beings.
Tell your truth kindly and listen with love to your selves, your sweethearts, and the world.
Think, intuit and envision for yourself, your beloved, and your community.
Flow energy between your crown and your beloved’s. Transcend your separate, individual self-senses and merge with each other, humanity, Earth, and cosmos.
Get a feel for these chakras so you can directly apply the technology we provide to recognize, cherish, coordinate and integrate the chakras and consciously apply what they energize-–security, sex, power, love, talk, understanding, and unity–-to enlighten yourself, your lover and the world.
We present below a ritual for you to activate your chakras and facilitate the process of intrapersonal and intrapersonal synergy. The ritual is based on the Chakra Chant (Bija Mantra), an ancient Sanskrit meditation, loud and strong. You chant seven one-syllable words–lam, vam, ram, yam, ham, ooo and mmm; each activates a different chakra. Lam pumps your perineum; vam invigorates your genitals. Ram empowers your belly, yam heals your heart, ham frees your voice. Your Third eye, forehead to occiput, vibrates with ooo, and you think and intuit at the same time. When you chant mmm, your crown opens and you unite with all you behold.
DO-IT-YOURSELF OR WITH PARTNER(S) EXERCISE TO EXPERIENCE TANTRIC ONENESS
The ritual below is best done with a partner. If you lack a partner, do the rite before a mirror. The entire ritual takes about two hours.
SECURITY CHAKRA (CHANT “LAM”): PERK YOUR PERINEUM
Sit or stand erect. Touch your perineum. Chant lam three times. After each lam you chant, squeeze your anal sphincter and see a red rose open there. In the center of the last rose, picture yourself healthy, serene and safe.
Face your partner or your reflection. Touch your own palms together, thumbs on chest. Gaze into your partner’s or image’s eyes, bow and say, “Namaste. I honor the divine in you.” Chant lam three more times.
If you’re a woman in a man-woman pair, enact the Great Mother. If you’re in a same sex pair, one of you stand to enact the Mother. Stand before the seated partner, your devotee. Your legs are trees; your feet, roots; arms and fingers, branches and twigs. Channel Ninharsag, co-creator and lover of humanity. As this Goddess, love and accept your devotee.
Goddess, whisper three times to your devotee, “ You belong.” “I’m always here for you.” “You’re safe.” “You’re healthy.”.
Devotee, if there’s any other reprogramming reminders–sentences that enhance your sense of belonging and physical well-being–you’d like her to say, tell her; she’ll say them.
Stand, Goddess; help the devotee stand before you. Devotee, open your eyes into your partner’s. Reverse goddess-devotee roles.
PORTRAY YOUR PERINEUM
Identify with your security chakra; pretend you’re it. Say what you’re like as the voice of safety, security and health. Tell what you want, why you want that and what you’d do if you ruled your person all the time. Relate how you’d run her or his lovelife, if you were in charge. If you ruled the whole world, how would you manage the survival and well-being of humanity and the planet? Say how you help your person and what you want her or him to appreciate you for. Discuss how your Inner Child and Inner Protectors–the voices most concerned with physical well-being and feeling safe–affect you.
SEXUAL CHAKRA (CHANT “VAM”): GRATIFY YOUR GENITALS
Touch your genitals and chant vam three times. After each vam, squeeze your pc muscles. Inhale and imagine an orange rosebud in your genitals. Exhale and it opens; in it, see yourself make love.
Chant vam three more times. Wave your body; undulate your pelvis toward your partner or image. Then sit, eyes closed.
Recall and relive your sexual low-point, your sexual peak and what you learned from each. Open your eyes and tell your partner. Say how what you learned can help you in your current sexualloving. If you lack a partner, note your sexual nadir, peak and concomitant wisdom in the margin.
Let your sexual chakra speak with your mouth; as Sex Chakra, say
what you’re like,
what you need and
what you’d do if you ran your person’s sex life.
Say what you want her of him to value you for.
Discuss how you, Sexual Chakra, choreograph the dance of your
Inner Innana (your sexually adventurous voice) and
inner Enlil (conservative voice).
Relate how you’d dictate sex on Earth if you could.
POWER CHAKRA (RAM): GET GUTS
Hands on lower belly: three times, chant ram. A yellow rose opens in your belly with each ram. Each rose shows you symbols and scenes of power, reminders to take what’s yours.
Assist your assertiveness chakra (activated when you chant ram) to get what you need in love and sex. Ram power lets you claim your due and in relations and in life, lets you go for what you want, lets you set your boundaries. You apply ram when you stand up for yourself or stand up to people who invade you.
Stand strong, hands on belly. Chant ram three times; each ram builds your inner strength.
Picture opposite you a person you’d like to stand up to in your full power.
Tell her or him what you want, why you want it and what you need.
Open your eyes and, with your partner, discuss your experience.
Close your eyes for a few minutes and meditate on the power you need in relationships. Complete these sentences to each other:
“What I want from you is ….”
“What I want in my community, country and world is …”
Demand your due (adapted from H. Hendrix). Complete the following sentence, and you have a tool to confront people when you’re upset with them.
Tell your partner, “When you …, (Say what upset you), I feel … and react by … to hide my fear of … because what I need is …”
Say what you’re like as the voice that asserts.
Proclaim what you want and why.
Relate how you’d run your person’s lovelife, if you were in charge.
If you ruled the world, how would you empower people and the planet?
Say how you help your person and how you want her or him to appreciate you.
LOVE CHAKRA (YAM): HEED YOUR HEART
Rest your palms on your chest, chant yam and a green rose opens in your heart. In the middle of the rose see someone you love who loves you too. Twice more, chant yam, open heart roses and picture people you love.
Pretend you stand before one of the people, other than your partner. Beam love to the person you think of and imagine you finish this sentence to her or him: “Here’s what I love about you….”
Receive love from her or him..Broadcast love from your heart to your family, community and humanity.
Open your eyes, look into your partner’s, share a loving gaze. Think of what you love about her or him. Then sit together and say who you visualized loving when you had your eyes closed. Share what you felt when you sent love to the person you imaged, to your family and to the world. Tell each other, “What I love about you is …”
Become your love chakra and say what you want and why.
How would your person live if you were the sole voice she or he heeded. How do you balance her or his Giver and Taker subselves.
Relate what you’d do if you dictated love on Earth.
EXPRESSION CHAKRA (HAM): VITALIZE YOUR VOICE
Hands at throat, three times, chant ham, open blue roses in your throat. Hear, in your mind’s ear, your throat singing your song, one that reminds you of who you are.
Cradle your partner’s throat in your hands and chant ham three more times to each other. Or chant it to the mirror. Take turns singing your favorite songs–songs that expresses who you are.
Finish this sentence with each other as many times as you can: “You don’t know I ….”
Weigh the risk of your partner’s probable reaction in the following completions against the possibility of more intimacy; you may want a neutral witness to help you through any upset you fear the candor we suggest might trigger.
Notice what you dread divulging; magnify this fear and finish:
“I have secrets so bad that if you knew you’d ….”
“It’s hardest to tell you ….”
“I risk our relation by revealing ….”
Tickle each other till you giggle; this, too, opens your throat chakra.
Enact your Inner Narrator. Personify your communicative chakra, the subself that shares or suppresses what you say.
Relate your concerns about what your person reveals.
What do you need to feel safe to express authentically?
If you dictated the truth to the world, how would it change?
CLARITY CHAKRA (OOO): BROADEN YOUR BRAIN
Hold your head, brow to occiput, in your hands. Chant ooo three times. With each ooo, see a violet rose open in your skull. Each of the three violet roses reveals a vision. First vision: you at your best; second: you and those you love living your loving potential; third: the world at best.
To explore your mind–the ooo chakra–, evoke your psychic abilities and archetypal understandings.
Sit and, facing partner or mirror-image, touch hands, rest foreheads together, eye-gaze and chant ooo three more times. Imagine each ooo tunes your psychic center. Separate your heads but keep your gaze into each other’s eyes.
If partnered, one of you identify with your psychic self, the part of you that intuits directly; the other opens her or his mind to the psychic. If you’re do this alone, contemplate your image.
Look past your partner’s or image’s current face. See what your partner or the person in the mirror looked like as a newborn, as a child, as a young adult. See a pivotal childhood incident in her or his life. Imagine your partner or yourself in a pastlife; see a pivotal incident in that life. Guess, if your partner (or you) developed best in the next ten years, how she, he or you’d be.
Share (or if alone, write) what you imagine.
If you’re partnered, reverse roles; it’s the partner’s turn to become your seer and imagine critical events in your childhood and pastlives, imagine you at your best in ten years and share these with you.
Represent your reasoner. Identify with your intellect.
How did you serve her or him then?
How do you help now?
What do you want and why do you want that?
If you modulated her or him all the time, how would she or he live?
How would you organize the world if you were in charge?
How do you, Intellect, get along with the other half–the intuitive, psychic part–of the brain?
CONNECTION CHAKRA (MMM)
Chant mmm three times as thousand-petaled white lotus blossoms unfold at your crown. White light gushes from your crown, meets the light of your lover’s crown, the light of lovers everywhere and the light of all humanity. Open Your Crown and Merge with the Beloved, All People, All Beings, and the Divine. Transcend, yet retain as an aspect, your separate self-sense as you merge with lover, world, divinity. Close your eyes and channel, identify with, become the divine spirit of the universe. Enact the voice of your spirituality. As the spiritual subself, what do you desire for your person and the world?
Chant “lam, vam, ram, yam, ham, ooo, mmm”
Three times, sing lam, vam, ram, yam, ham, ooo, mmm (the entire Chakra Chant) in a single exhale. Your central channel of chakras vibrates. Hear each chakra’s message.
Lam says, “You belong”;
vam, “Savor sex.”
Ram, “Take yours”.
Yam, “Love and let love”.
CENTER AND COORDINATE THE CHAKRAS
Close your eyes and visualize, one-by-one, the voices of each of your chakras board a bus to picnic at the beach. Notice which voices sit together. Overhear them chat about how they’d like to enjoy this outing. When they arrive, notice how they play. Note how each helps prepare the picnic.
At the beach, a difficulty arises between two or more of your voices, who want different things. Notice which chakras want what. Let their disagreement escalate. Let the voices of the other chakras contribute to the debate..
It’s time to return, but one of the chakra voices delays boarding. Notice which. The others get it to come onboard, though it still resists. The bus driver turns to the recalcitrant voice and addresses it.
What does the driver say?
Become the driver, the one in charge, the one who decides where the bus goes and when. What do you say to the reluctant one and all the other chakra voices?
On the way home, they all sing together. What do they sing?
Share all chakras. Sit facing your partner and drape your legs over your partner’s thighs; bring you feet together behind your partner’s tailbone. Snuggle your genitals together. Rest your left hands on each others’ lower backs; right hands behind each other shoulder blades. Together, you’ll chant and, as you do, waken each chakra.
Imagine running energy from the front of your perineum, genitals, belly, throat, heart, brow and crown–chakras 1-7–into each of your partner’s chakras.
Breathe in and out when your partner does; synchronize your breath. Then syncopate your breath: inhale through your nose as your partner exhales through her or his mouth. Exhale through your mouth toward your beloved’s nose as she or he inhales through it. Pause together after each inhale and exhale. Take three syncopated breaths for each chakra (beginning with chakra 1).
Next, bless each chakra. Together, chant lam three times and focus on energy at the bottom of your spine. Align this energy with your partner’s. Send visions and feelings of safety, health and security as you say three loud lams. Tell each other, “I wish you health, safety and security”.
Rock your genitals against each other. Think of sexual and pleasant times together. Chant vam three times. Caress with eyes and genitals, wishing one another sensual ecstasy. Say, “I wish you sensual delight and sexual pleasure.”
Chant ram three times as you push your navels together. Feel your power and beam empowering images and encouraging thoughts out your bellies to each others’. Say, “Take what’s yours in life.”
Chant yam three times and share heart light, love and courage.
Say, “I love you; I receive your love.”
Open your throats, chant ham three times in unison, wish each other honest talk and joyous song. Commit, with each ham, to hear and teach other. Say, “Tell your truth.”
Join foreheads and look into each others’ eyes until your partner’s eyes seem to converge into a single eye. Remember the pastlife you imagined for your partner and how you speculated she or he could flower if she or he flowered during the next decade. Then chant ooo three times and wish your partner clarity, intuition and creativity. Say, “You know.”
Three times, chant mmm and imagine energy streams between your crown and your beloved’s. Your minds meld into a synergistic mutual mind. Then transcend your personal pairing and merge with pastlife lovers, the lover archetype, the loving force in the Universe.
Three more times, on a single exhale each time, chant lam, vam, ram, yam, ham, ooo, mmm together. Imagine your energies join in ever more refined auric bodies.
We intend the ritual below for advanced tantra practitioners and teachers; it’s too much for beginners who haven’t completed family of origin and relations-clearing work.
AMRITA GROUP RITUAL: Experiential Exploration of Chakra 7, Spirituality, for Tantra Teachers and Advanced Practitioners Only
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VARIATION 1: FOCUS ON ONE WOMAN AT A TIME
In an advanced intimate tantra group, a female Receiver and Givers (male and/or female) she selects share feelings, bring each other up-to-date on their lives. They do a group tarot, meditate together and state their intentions for the ritual. Givers ask her permission, and, when they she agrees, undress her and themselves for intimate experiences.
The Receiver lies on her back amidst the Givers she picked. She tells them how to position themselves around her and who she wants to begin exploring her vagina with fingers and mouth. Givers energize each of her chakras, stroke and kiss her external genitalia.
The Giver she selected maps her vagina internally to trigger emotions needing expression. The Givers help her redo her blocks and claim her full sensuality.
The ritual climaxes when her givers then stroke her to orgasmic ecstasy.
Other women may next volunteer as Receiver.
VARIATION 2: FOR GROUP WITH TWO OR MORE WOMEN AND WITH AN EQUAL NUMBER OF GIVERS
Create an alluring atmosphere with scents, music and sacraments in a private, warm, candle-lit , well-padded room large enough for your group. Keep water extra cushions, towels and lube at hand.
Sit together in a circle. Take turns; share what’s in your hearts. Read the group’s tarot, do the I-Ching or meditate together. Say your intentions for the ritual.
Stand in two inward-facing concentric circles, female receivers in the inner circle, givers on the outer circle. Join hands, face, and eye-gaze for a few seconds with each person in your circle. Send energy from your heart out of your right hand into the hand of the person on your right. Imagine and feel the energy you send go around your circle through the hearts and hands of everyone in your circle.
Release hands. Women in the center turn to face the outer circle of givers and, hands still joined, walk slowly in a clockwise circle and make eye contact with each of the givers in the outer circle. Stop before the giver you select as your dedicated giver for the ritual.
GIVER & RECEIVER BLESS CHAKRAS
Sit in yab yum with this partner and do “Bless Chakras,” ritual.
Do blessings for the perineum first, then genitals, solar plexus, heart, hands, throat/ears, brain/eyes, and, finally, crown.
Perineum. Pulse your anal sphincter. Say, “I love you. Feel your base and enjoy health, safety, and security. You belong.”
Genitals. Press your genitals against hers or his; say, “I love you through your yoni/wand, and bless your sensuality, creativity, and sexuality.”
Solar Plexis. Touch your belly to your partner’s. Say, “I love you in your power chakra; take what’s yours.”
Heart. Place your right hand on your partner’s heart and your partner’s right on your heart. Put your left hand behind her or his heart, between the shoulder blades; have your partner put her or his left behind your heart. “I send you love. May you touch with pleasure.”
Throat and Ears. Put your left hand on the back of your partner’s neck. Say, “I love you. May you speak truth and sing your true songs. May you hear the truth. May you enjoy sex with your mouth.”
Brain and eyes. Join brows. Look up into each other’s eyes till they appear to merge; say, “I love you. I celebrate how you understand and intuit.”
Crown. Flow energy between your crown and your partner’s. Say, “I love you and merge with you. May you experience your unity with the Universe.”
FEMALES OF THE INNER CIRCLE LIE ON THEIR BACKS; TOUCH HEADS, AND HOLD HANDS.
Givers sit or kneel between receivers’ open legs and slowly stroke and kiss receivers’ yonis.
They bring the receivers to ejaculatory orgasms and continue to do so as long as the receivers wish.
Receivers maintain contact through their heads and hands so they not only feel their own orgasms but also feel the other receivers’ orgasms as well.
The entire group enters a coherent field, a single mind and merges with the universe and the divine.
SERVE LOVER(s) AS MONARCH(s) FOR ½ DAY—Do-It-with-Partners Betterment Cues
SERVE THE QUEEEN FOR 1st Half of the Day:
A woman’s your beloved Queen. You’re her devoted servant and lover. She adorns herself in regal gowns to display herself then undresses to reveal herself to you in her most awesome and alluring manner.
Serve exactly as she prefers for 4 hours. Ask her if you can give her what you sense she’d enjoy.
At the end of the 4 hours, ask her for feedback on how your devotion affected her. Share with her how you felt as you served her.
SERVE THE KING FOR SECOND 1/2 OF DAY
A man’s your beloved King. You’re his devoted servant and lover. He dresses or undresses himself to display himself to you in the manner you find most attractive.
Serve exactly as he prefers for the same amount of time that you served him when you played his loving attendant. Ask him what he prefers and give him this as well as anything else you sense he’d like.
At the end of his four hours as King, request feedback from him on how your devotion affected him. Share with him how you felt when you served him.
In this easy-to-read, fully-illustrated manual, you learn to teach lovers and seekers how to:
* Master advanced tantra techniques
* Open all energy vortexes (chakras) to each other
* Refine relations
* Encourage female ejaculation and master male ejaculatory control
* Find meaning and purpose in relationships and life
* Reprogram parent imprints that diminish sex and love * Get satisfaction and sustain sex
* Mutually make more in sexualloving
* Delve dreams and pastlives
* Worship women and gratify guys
Also by the Lessins:
ALL-CHAKRA TANTRA: SYNERGIZED SACRED & PSYCHOLOGICAL EXERCISES FOR INNER CHILDREN, VOLUPTUARIES, HEROS, ROMANTICS, VISIONARIES, & SAGES
TANTRA for ALL CHAKRAS guides you through experiences that help you:
* Love each other more and better
* Open your energy vortexes (chakras) to each other
* Share your diverse inner-voices
* Learn what hurts and scares your Inner Kids
* Discern when to lower your subself shields
* Share vulnerability and connect with each other
* Synergize your inner selves’ dance within and between you
* Refine how you relate
* Heal each other’s hearts
* Encourage female ejaculation
* Master male ejaculatory control
THE LESSINS: HOLISTIC-LOVING GUIDES
SASHA ALEX LESSIN, PH.D. (U.C.L.A.) taught Sex Education in the University of Hawaii School of Medicine, Leeward Community College and the Professional School for Psychological Studies. He served as Director of Counseling at the Waikiki Drug Center and has counseled relationships, guided spiritual journeywork and taught tantra for over fifty years.
JANET KIRA LESSIN, naturally tantric, joined Sasha as his co-teacher and presenter and together they developed, All-Chakra Tantra as Janet worked through her sexual abuse traumas and learned how to facilitate others’ reprogramming.
The LESSINS taught Tantra at Maui Community College, World Polyamory Association, World Tantra Association conferences, the School of Tantra on Maui and The Phoenix Goddess Temple.
They’ve appeared on numerous TV shows and on hundreds of radio shows and have written 10 books and counting.