By Sasha Alex Lessin, Ph.D., Dean, & Janet Kira Lessin, Professor of Tantric Studies. School of Counseling & Tantra
This post is for adults only; if you are not an adult, exit it immediately.
The cue sequence we share here is designed for you to free intense feelings in a man that encourage him to express his feelings and to experience spiritual oneness with you as his “Giver” and he as your “Receiver.” These cues complement those for how to satisfy women at TANTRA TACTICS (on this site at https://enkispeaks.com/tantra-tactics-charge-your-chakras-do-it-yourself-tantra-for-pairs-or-yourself-in-the-mirror/)
Ask him to wear his favorite ritual clothes for a few hours of growth, challenge, and ecstasy. When he arrives, present yourself well-dressed, manicured, and groomed. Show enthusiasm to honor and please him. Give him a gift.
PREP PLACE FOR PASSION & PLEASURE
Beautify your boudoir. Make the milieu romantic with incense, seductive scents, flickering firelight, soft lights, or candles. Surprise him with a new bedspread and satin sheets. Decorate the space with sensual statuettes and paintings to evoke passion.
Provide pillows, towels, his favorite fragrant flowers, continuous romantic music, a love poem or pledge, and another gift on the bed. Set out sensual snacks, chocolates, wine, or entheogens. Keep massage oil and internal lubricant near the bed: block phone, pager, computer, or in-person interruptions.
PREPARE YOURSELF
Clean your nails, brush your teeth afresh. If you’re female, apply perfume he likes. If you’re male also, and clean-shaven, shave again; if you’ve a beard or mustache, shampoo it.
Find food, drink, sacrament, flowers, and music he’ll like.
Arrange the room to delight and relax him. Create a large, romantically-lit love nest. Put water, towels, blankets, candles, incense, massage oil, internal lubricant, and a space heater next to a futon or bed covered with fresh, attractive sheets and towels. Have several surgery-type gloves on hand.
RECEIVER’S PREPARATION
Fast for 6 hours before the session. Especially clean your anus.
GUIDE
*** means he responds.
### means you speak.
Read words in brackets [ ] to yourself.
[Read bold-printed sentences aloud from here on]
Okay Seeker, lie down on your back, breathe deeply, and invite your Higher Self, your guides, and your paragons to help you in this ritual. Invoke them aloud. ***
Sit with me in the yab yum posture: I’ll wrap my legs over your hips so your genitals touch mine. Gaze into my eyes. Put your left palm on my lumbar, right palm on the back of my heart. I’ll likewise hold your heart between my hands.
Synchronize your breath with mine. Let’s breathe together at the same time. As you inhale, raise your head and (in this order) stretch your neck, thoracic, and lumbar spinal bones skyward. Keep your belly firm. Feel your tailbone curl backward as you inhale deeply. Your neck and then head stretch up for spiritual connection. We curl our tailbones forward toward each other as we both exhale.
Notice how our chakras vibrate with each other’s as our genital, belly, heart, and foreheads touch while we breathe.
Syncopate our breaths; send and receive love to me with each breath, and I’ll do the same. Inhale my breath through your nose as I exhale it through my mouth. Exhale through your mouth into my nose as I inhale. Pause with me after each inhale and exhale.
When you inhale my breath through your nose, think, ‘You love me.’ As you hold air, I breathe into you for a bit, think to yourself, ‘I hold and treasure the love you send me.’ Then, as you release through your mouth at my nose, think, ‘I love you, take in my love.’ As we both hold breath after your exhale, we say to ourselves, ‘Hold my love within you.’ *** ###
[BLESS CHAKRAS]
Now, let’s bless each other’s chakras. With me, chant lam–for Chakra 1, the Child & Child-Protector Chakra, three times. Focus on energy at the bottom end of your spine, meeting the energy at the end of my spine. Send, “You’re safe, healthy, and secure” affirmation visions as we both say three loud lams. *** ###
Let’s both say this sentence for Chakra 1 at the same time: “Enjoy health, security; express your feelings when you choose; maintain privacy when you choose.”
Chakra 2, Sex Chakra: Rock your genitals against mine. Recall or imagine genital connections between us. Caress me with your eyes and genitals and wish me sensual ecstasy as I do the same with you. With me, aloud, say, “Enjoy sensual delight and sexual pleasure.” *** ###
Together, let’s chant ram three times for Chakra 3, the belly or Power Chakra, as we press navels together, feel strength and beam images that empower and thoughts that encourage from our bellies to each other’s. Aloud together we say, “Take what’s yours in life.” *** ###
Chant yam three times with me for Chakra 4 as we send light, love, and courage vibes from our hearts to each other. Aloud, at the same time, let’s say, “I love you; I receive your love.”*** ###
Open your throat, chant ham three times in unison for Chakra 5, our communication chakra. For this chakra, we wish each other honest talk and joyous song. Commit, with me, each time we chant ham, to hear and clear with each other. Together, let’s say, “Tell your truth.” *** ###
Chakra 6, Clarity. Join foreheads with me and look up into my eyes until they seem to blur into a single eye. Imagine me in a past life with you. Picture how we could relate with each other, our relationship flourishing to the max. Now, together, three times, let’s chant ooo. *** ###
Wish me–and I’ll wish you–logic, intuition and creativity as we say at the same time, “You know.” *** ###
For 7th Chakra, spiritual chakras, our crowns: three times, let’s picture energy streaming between our crowns as we chant mmm. See our minds meld into a mutual magical mind. *** ###
Imagine you look down from the ceiling. You see us below in yab yum. Watch us transform into pastlife lovers. Feel the lover archetype resonate us both. Unify with the loving force in the Universe. Say, “We are one.” *** ###
Three times, on a single exhale each time, chant THE ENTIRE MANTRA: lam, vam, ram, yam, ham, ooo, mmm together. *** ###
Imagine our energies join in ever more refined auric bodies.
[HEAR HIS CURRENT CONCERNS]
Let’s look at what your life’s like nowadays.
[Respond to what he answers with, “Thank you,” or summarize what he says and ask if you’ve got him right. In your words, restate what he says needs correction. If he expresses emotion, empathize aloud.]
What concerns you most nowadays? ***
What do you intend to experience in the tantric healing and pleasuring ritual I offer you? ***
Tell me your fears and reservations. ***
Say your boundaries with me at this time. ***
[OBEY HIS TOUCH PREFERENCES]
Now I’m going to touch you in different ways to remind you of the many touch options you have. I’ll take ten minutes to stroke, knead, tap, rub, lightly pinch, scratch, slap, massage, kiss, gently bite and lick your inner forearm. You respond with sounds to indicate your reactions to the touches. You practice commands, “Yes,” “No,” “More pressure,” “Lighter,” “Slower,” “Hold,” and “Stop.” [With three or more pressures, stroke, knead, tap, rub, lightly pinch, scratch, slap, massage, kiss, gently bite and lick his inner forearm. ] ***
[DISROBE & ADMIRE HIM]
I’ll shower again, re-brush my teeth, apply scents you like, and clean my nails again. Then you bathe, and I’ll wash and admire you.
[Bath and dry him. Compliment his physical features. Suck and tongue-tickle his big toes while you gaze into his eyes. Help him into his divine attire.]
Thank you for allowing me to worship and adore you. May I again undress you, garment by garment, drink in your divine contours, admire your features, and say what I like about how you look and feel? ***
[Laud his looks aloud. ]
I love serving you. I relish relating this intimately. May my caresses cure hurts I and others caused you. May our hearts unite and we become one with the Universe.
What words have you to consecrate the worship I offer your Inner Daka, your loving, sensual, sexual self? [Give him time to answer.] ***
Lie on your back [indicate bed or futon].
[Touch his heart with your right palm and rest his right hand on your heart. Place your left hand atop his right.]
Put your left hand on my right hand. Look into my left eye.
[RUB HIM RIGHT]
May I massage you?” ***
[If he consents, have him lie on his belly. Tug his toes.
Rub his soles and each leg’s back. Massage his fingers, palms, arms. Then rub his back and his bottom.
Help him turn over onto his back again. Massage his feet again.
Dance your fingers atop his feet, hands, arms and legs.
Brush his genitals as you glide your hands over his torso.
Massage his belly; pull the abdominal muscles from side to side. Trace his ascending, transverse and descending colon clockwise.
Massage his face and head.
Stroke and knead his gracilis muscles (inner side, each leg) where they insert in his pelvis.
Press your fingers into the muscles above his pubic bone.]
[ASK TO TOUCH HIS WAND OF LIGHT]
May I touch your wand, your lingam? ***
[CHARGE CHAKRAS]
[If he says yes, rest your left hand on his HEART. Hold your right hand over his penis, almost but not quite making physical contact.]
[Send a love-beam from your eyes into his left eye.]
[Three times, breathe in and out at the same time he does, then settle your hand on his penis. Imagine you together bring sexual energy through your right hand into it. Imagine the energy you send rises through his belly, to his heart.]
I love you. Feel our hearts connect and energy vibrate between us. Let my channeled Love Diety attend your sexual shrine as we explore the wand of your love-shrine.
I send you love as I breathe out; breathe it in, inhale my love.
[Exhale, then draw your navel back toward your spine. Pull your belly up. Squeeze your pubococcygeal and anal sphincter muscles. Imagine you’re sending energy from your tailbone, up your spine, through your heart, and out your right hand into his pelvis. When you inhale, feel the energy you sent him move from his heart into your left hand.]
[Keep your right hand on his pelvis, your eyes on his. Move your left hand to his CROWN.]
I invite the God of Love to enter your CROWN wherein dwell love’s spiritual aspects. [Breathe in and out with him three times.]
[Move your left hand to his BROW chakra]
Let your sexual thoughts and visions clarify what you experience as I worship your sexual shrine.
[Breathe simultaneously with him three times]
May the God of Wisdom respond as we explore your lingam.
[Move your left hand behind his neck. Eye-gaze, share three breaths]
Connect your throat with your Divine Communicator, who may sing, sound and say whatever he’s moved to share as we explore your sacred sexual cave. ***
[Place your left hand next on his belly. Take three breaths with him.]
May your empowered Hero attend the rites at your lingam. [Rest your left hand on his perineum, share three breaths]
May the Divine Child within you bring playfulness, magic and emotional openness to your genitals for the sacred ceremony.
[Rest your left hand again on his heart. Take ten more breaths together as you gaze into his eyes.]
[WORK HIS WAND]
Rest on your back. [put your right hand on his heart]
Declare your intention to receive love, heal yourself of any limitations you wish to drop. ***
[Massage him all over except his genitals and pelvic chakra.]
I’m going to stroke you several ways. Make sounds, give me verbal feedback.
[Male anatomy, chakras 1 and 2]
[Press along his wand with your hand or thumb and index finger. Scratch wand lightly. Pat and slap it lightly. Throw it from one of his thighs to the other and from one of your hands to the other.]
[Point the tip of his penis toward his navel, hold the base in one hand and, with the heel of your other hand, press penis from tip to base, them from base to tip. Slide your hands and pull the wand; vary strokes from hard to feather-like.]
[Lubricate your hands. Hold the base of his wand with one hand and twist the other around the wand in a corkscrew motion. Alternate hands.]
[Point his wand toward his navel and alternate pressing the tip with your thumbs. Trace circles on the tip and each part of the shaft.]
[Point his penis toward his feet and caress it from tip to base.]
[Roll the wand between your hands. Tickle and scratch his scrotum. Lightly hold each testicle separately.]
Say: Exercise ejaculatory control. To avoid squirting before you’re ready, identify your sensations the moment before ejaculatory inevitability–your sensations just before your seminal vesicles and prostate empty.
When you feel ejaculation’s imminent shift your attention to my eyes and breathe deeply. After you inhale, move your chin back toward your throat. Keep your neck straight and long.
Then exhale.
While you’re empty of air, pull your belly in and up toward your throat. Tighten your anal sphincter and pubococcygeal muscles–pretend you’re stopping urination or preventing vacating your bowels.
As you inhale, imagine you pull energy up from your rosebud (anus) and genitals, up through your spine, out the top of your head and into my crown (instead of out your wand as ejaculate). Imagine you and I circulate love energy.
[BLESS HIS BASE]
[Slip your hands into the surgical gloves you have kept on hand.]
Breathe as I do.
[Adore the Seeker with your eyes, while you hold his wand.]
[Caress his wand, jewel sack, jewels, and perineum with your fingers, hands, breasts, lips, mouth, tongue, genitals, and other parts he might find pleasurable or enjoyable.]
[Touch, wearing your gloves, hold, then massage each inch of his perineum and rosebud.]
Say what you feel, remember, and imagine as I hold your wand. ***
[Hold his lingam in one hand and, with the gloved ring finger of the other hand, trace the door to his anal cave.]
Tell me how hard, dee,p or fast to press. ***
[When your finger first enters the Seeker’s rosebud, say:] Let’s hold still a few minutes. Look in my eyes and breathe with me. Make any sounds that come to you.
[Send love to Seeker through the finger in his cave and through your hand on his wand.]
[Put his lingam in your mouth. Keep eye contact.]
[Make a gentle, “come-here” motion with your finger in his anus. Fondle the front inner wall of his cave with your finger. Pull the finger gently from his pubic bone toward his jewels.]
[Then move your finger inside him like a windshield wiper over the inner front wall of his cave. Trace circles and figure-eights on the wall. Alternate speed, depth and pressure of your stroke.]
[See, in his eyes, the effects of your touches.}
Tell me if any place I touch inside you feels pleasurable, hurts, burns or feels numb.” ***
[Remember the spots he finds pleasurable.]
When you notice a painful, numb, or burning spot, or when you feel a spot that feels really good, tell me. ***
Close your eyes while I touch you. Notice your fantasies, memories, and associations. Express your emotions. ***
If you could redo any of the memories you think of as I touch you inside, how would you rescript them? ***
If you’d lived the way you preferred, how would your life have been different? How would you be now? ***
I’m going now to move my finger back and forth from a spot in you that woke your memory of an unpleasant experience and from a spot in you that woke you memory of a pleasant experience. Tell me when both spots I touch feel good. ***
Remember, in situations that resonate your painful imprints, you can live from your re-done scene rather than the self-limiting program you paired with the story you recalled while I paired the two spots.
TANTRA for ALL CHAKRAS
amazon.com/Tantra-Chakras-Sasha-Alex-Lessin/dp/1548102830
guides you through experiences that help you:
* Love each other more and better
* Open your energy vortexes (chakras) to each other
* Share your diverse inner voices
* Learn what hurts and scares your Inner Kids
* Discern when to lower your subself shields
* Share vulnerability and connect
* Synergize your inner selves’ dance within and between you
* Refine how you relate
Also by the Lessins:
* TEACH TANTRA
amazon.com/Teach-Tantra-Teacher-Manual-Chakras/dp/1977642799
is a manual for you to experience advanced tantra and teach it to other people.
You learn to teach how to:
* Master advanced tantra techniques
* Open all energy vortexes (chakras) to each other
* Refine relations
* Encourage female ejaculation and master male ejaculatory control
* Find meaning and purpose in relationships and life
* Reprogram parent imprints that diminish sex and love * Get satisfaction and sustain sex
* Mutually make more in sexual loving
* Delve dreams and pastlives
* Worship women and gratify guys
THE LESSINS: HOLISTIC-LOVING GUIDES
SASHA ALEX LESSIN, PH.D. (U.C.L.A.) taught Sex Education in the University of Hawaii School of Medicine, Leeward Community College, and the Professional School for Psychological Studies. He served as Director of Counseling at the Waikiki Drug Center and has counseled relationships, guided spiritual journey work, and taught tantra for over 50 years.
JANET KIRA LESSIN, naturally tantric, joined Sasha as his co-teacher and presenter, and together they developed All-Chakra Tantra as Janet worked through her sexual abuse traumas and learned how to facilitate others’ reprogramming.
The LESSINS taught Tantra at Maui Community College, World Polyamory Association, World Tantra Association conferences, the School of Tantra on Maui, and The Phoenix Goddess Temple.
They’ve appeared on numerous TV shows and on hundreds of radio shows and have written 10 books and counting.
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